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Four Agreements and A Free Gift

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Does anyone remember the television show Hee Haw?  We watched it in our home every week.  During each episode, Grandpa Jones, Roy Clark and a few other guys sat on a front porch with a hound dog lamenting about their lives and singing the following song:

“Gloom, despair and agony on me.  Deep dark depression, excessive misery.  If it weren’t for bad luck I’d have no luck at all.  Gloom, despair and agony on me.”

That song sums up exactly how I felt the first day I walked into therapy; gloomy, unhappy and in great agony and despair.  Depression and anxiety will do that to a weary soul.  And I was one tired and weary soul.

On that first day, my therapist asked, “If you spill milk what do you do?”  My answer, “I clean it up.”  “Yes,” she continued, but what do you say to yourself when you’re cleaning it up?”  It only took a second for me to share my negative self-talk; “Look at this mess you’ve made.  You’re so clumsy.  You can’t do anything right!”  That was an eye-opener for me, as I didn’t consciously realize how negatively I felt about myself.

As our session continued, my therapist shared a book with me and recommended I read it at least three times stating it “changed her life.”  The book was small and titled The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.  At that point in my life, I was open to doing anything and everything just to feel better, so I went home and ordered the book from Amazon.

When the book arrived, I opened it and couldn’t stop reading.  It felt as if the book were written just for me.  I finished it in no time and read it again and again and again.  I continue to read it eight months later.

The Four Agreements is a wisdom book based on the beliefs and teachings of the Toltec people of southern Mexico.  The Toltec were “scientists and artists who formed a society to explore and conserve spiritual knowledge and practices of the ancient ones,”  the book explains. 

Don Miguel Ruiz’s writing is exceptional and reader friendly.  In The Four Agreements, he writes about the Toltec traditions and beliefs and sets forth four teachings…a way of life for those who practice…meant to bring about happiness, peace and love in one’s life.  While the four teachings sound simple, they require a lot of work.

The four agreements are:

  1. Be impeccable with your word: Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
  2. Don’t take anything personally: Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
  3. Don’t make assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
  4. Always do your best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

(Text from The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom ©1997 Miguel Angel Ruiz, MD.  Published by Amber-Allen Publishing, Inc.)

After reading this powerful little book, I began to practice the four agreements, even posting them on my refrigerator door as a reminder.  I am by no means a master of these teachings, but I do my best (#4) every day to remember them and put them into action.  I can tell you honestly and sincerely this book has changed my life for the better.

If you’re struggling with negative self-talk, worried about everyone liking you or get upset when you assume without asking questions or just want a good read,  I highly recommend you get a copy of The Four Agreements.  You really need to read it more than once and then start to practice the teachings and see what happens.  If it changed my life, it can surely do nothing but help or change yours.

To that end, I am GIVING AWAY a brand spanking new copy of The Four Agreements to the first person to leave a comment on this blog post. The comment MUST be left on the blog and not Discovering Diane’s Facebook page.  If you’ve read the book already, I would love for you to share your experience and thoughts in the comment section.

Blessings, Peace and love,

 Diane

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A journey of self.

11 thoughts on “Four Agreements and A Free Gift

  1. This book is a winner! I’ve read it, own it and loved it. I am a big believer that Thoughts become Things. And you have a choice about the thoughts you want to keep. Do you subscribe to Notes for the Universe? If not you might enjoy their daily email. I look forward to mine. http://www.tut.com/Inspiration/nftu. Thanks for reminding about a wonderful book that I need to visit again.

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    1. Yes! I’m so happy but not surprised that you know this book. It really is a life changer when you learn to stop putting negative thoughts into the universe. I know for me I didn’t realize I was doing it. Now I do and my outlook has definitely improved. Even during stressful times I’m learning to stay positive. 💙

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  2. I haven’t heard of this book but I need to get my own copy! It seems like a huge winner! Thanks for the great suggestion –going to add it to my wishlist now!

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    1. I think you will really enjoy it. Definitely gives a new perspective on how we look at things. At least it did for me. I just related to his writing. Thanks for commenting and if you get the book I would be interested in your feedback. 💚

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