Yesterday morning really tested both my patience and how well therapy is working for me. An event occurred leaving me feeling salty, furious, sad, and frustrated; emotions I’ve felt intensely and repeatedly for almost two years due to an ongoing situation.
Prior to therapy, I would wallow in these emotions and let these negative feelings consume me allowing them to ruin not only my day, but quite possibly my week, month or months following. Not this time. This time I used the tools I’ve learned to move past these emotions.
Instead of letting my negative feelings control me leaving me depressed and anxious, I took control by putting into practice what I call my “time out time.”
By using the time out time method, I make a conscious decision to sit with (not wallow in) what I am feeling for around an hour. Once the allotted time is up, I go about my day resuming activities, distracting myself and try to focus on the Four Agreements; Be impeccable with your word, Don’t take anything personally, Don’t make assumptions and Always do your best.
When the hour passed on Tuesday, I got my positive groove back. My sweet friend “A” can attest to this as she heard it in my voice during a phone call. This was after my initial frustration text to her and several other supportive people in my life.
Therapy taught me to do this and it’s been a life changer. Therapy did not teach me to send frustration texts to my supportive friends/family tribe. I thought that up all by myself. Isn’t my tribe lucky (ha!).
I’ve learned when someone or something hurts you or someone you care about, it is perfectly acceptable and healthy to acknowledge whatever emotion(s) you’re feeling; heartbreak, betrayal, anger, frustration, sadness, etc. The key to dealing with these emotions is to sit with them for a little while and then move on.
Taking a time out time isn’t always easy. In fact, it takes a lot of work. However, the more you practice and, in my case, set a time limit, to focus on the emotions, the easier it becomes to release them and get out of the negative head space. This is something everyone can try whether you suffer with depression/anxiety or just every day life stressors.
Time out time is good for the body, mind and soul. What do you think? Share in a comment.
Blessings, Peace and Love,
(This blog and its writings are based solely on my personal experiences. I am not a therapist of any kind. Any information contained here is not meant to replace the expertise of trained and licensed professionals.)